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When a girl of the same caste, and a virgin, is married in accordance with the precepts of Holy Writ, the results of such a union are the acquisition of Dharma and Artha, offspring, affinity, increase of friends, and untarnished love.

For this reason a man should fix his affections upon a girl who is of good family, whose parents are alive, and who is three years or more younger than himself.

She should be born of a highly respectable family, possessed of wealth, well connected, and with many relations and friends.

She should also be beautiful, of a good disposition, with lucky marks on her body, and with good hair, nails, teeth, ears, eyes and breasts, neither more nor less than they ought to be, and no one of them entirely wanting, and not troubled with a sickly body.

The man should, of course, also possess these qualities himself. But at all events, says Ghotakamukha, a girl who has been already joined with others (i.e. no longer a maiden) should never be loved, for it would be reproachable to do such a thing.

Now in order to bring about a marriage with such a girl as described above, thee parents and relations of the man should exert themselves, as also such friends on both sides as may be desired to assist in the matter.

These friends should bring to the notice of the girl's parents, the faults, both present and future, of all the other men that may wish to marry her, and should at the same time extol even to exaggeration all the excellencies, ancestral, and paternal, of their friend, so as to endear him to them, and particularly to those that may be liked by the girl's mother.

One of the friends should also disguise himself as an astrologer, and declare the future good fortune and wealth of his friend by showing the existence of all the lucky omens and signs, the good influence of planets, the auspicious entrance of the sun into a sign of the Zodiac, propitious stars and fortunate marks on his body.

Others again should rouse the jealousy of the girl's mother by telling her that their friend has a chance of getting from some other quarter even a better girl than hers.

A girl should be taken as a wife, as also given in marriage, when fortune, signs, omens, and the words (before anything is begun it is a custom to go early in the morning to a neighbour's house, and overhear the first words that may be spoken in his family, and according as the words heard are of good or bad import, to draw an inference as to the success or failure of the undertaking.) of others are favourable, for, says Ghotakamukha, a man should not marry at any time he likes.

A girl who is asleep, crying, or gone out of the house when sought in marriage, or who is betrothed to another, should not be married.

The following also should be avoided:

• One who is kept concealed
• One who has an ill-sounding name
• One who has her nose depressed
• One who has her nostril turned up
• One who is formed like a male
• One who is bent down
• One who has crooked thighs
• One who has a projecting forehead
• One who has a bald head
• One who does not like purity
• One who has been polluted by another
• One who is affected with the Gulma (a disease consisting of any glandular enlargement in any part of the body)
• One who is disfigured in any way
• One who has fully arrived at puberty
• One who is a friend
• One who is a younger sister
• One who is a Varshakari (a woman, the palms of whose hands and the soles of whose feet are always perspiring)

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