S P O N T A N E I T Y   A N D   L O V E M A K I N G

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PART 1
Ecstasy: in Greek the prefix "ex" is generally translated as "outside", and "staxis" as "to stay". Consequently, erotic ecstasy refers to the erotic state obtained through erotic union performed with continence that transcends any state of consciousness and facilitates the escape from the monotony of ordinary lovemaking.

A certain fact needs to be stated in the beginning of this article: we cannot provide instructions that would generate spontaneity in our readers, because one cannot be spontaneous while following specific instructions.

Just as the inspiration of the artist comes from seeing things from a personal perspective, spontaneity during lovemaking is related to how you see and feel things.

The direct and intimate perception of your lover, the true and real feelings, and the perceptions of your lover's sensations will generate an immediate and intuitive knowledge that acts as a psychological guide for what you have to do.

Throughout the following, we will still make suggestions, in order to provide a deeper and better understanding of the term spontaneity and its importance in a steady couple relationship.

What you are about to read are not rules, or techniques, they are merely impulses in the right direction for those who need such impulses.

Think of the first time you ever wanted to ride a bicycle. First, you needed a certain impulse. Think of the following in the same terms. After the first few lessons, you become natural and relaxed, so that any further suggestions or hints become useless.

The more perceptive among us could easily notice how many great artists have only truly begun to create something great after they has come out from their master's influence. Lord Byron, the Romantic poet said that when one begins to create, "ten thousand delicate inspirations" will start coming thier way.

Let us now move on to what really concerns us at this point. Lovemaking is roughly made of three parts: kissing, caressing and the lovemaking itself.


THE KISS
How many ways of kissing are there? Maybe even more than the raindrops that gently caress the flowers during spring. The lovers may kiss each other by simply touching the tips of their tongues, by simply enjoying this sensation.

Be aware of the sensations and reactions you have. Enjoy the simple touch of your tongues, without trying to direct your lover's tongue one way or another, without inhibiting this passionate movement in some way, but without having to stay still.

In other words, allow your tongue to move freely, as in a dazzling dance, feeling, tasting, and any other movement that you might want, or maybe none of the above, just be relaxed and intimate with your lover.

Thus, you allow all your yearnings to manifest freely, without performing the usual gestures; let your tongue become the gesture, let it feel the flavor of the divine nectar.


THE LUCID DRUNKENNESS OF LOVE
Soon you will notice that your tongue seems to have a mind of its own, and knows exactly what to do. All you need to do at this point is to feel and express what you experience.

Feeling is now more than just tasting, it is also perceiving the warmth, the moisture, the softness, the breath etc.

Even if you spend hours on end in this lucid drunkenness, you will still want to feel and touch your lover not only with your tongue, but also with your lips, kissing her lips and any part of her body.

There is no need to inhibit the movements of your lips or tongue, simply allow them to move freely, spontaneously and playfully on your lover's body.

There is no other way, in this whole wide world that could allow you know your lover as directly and as personally as this sacred and intimate act will allow you to.

Someone compared this type of kissing with a stellar painting, filled with bright colors, in four dimensions, a cosmic diagram of the feelings and inner experiences that appear in a person when kissing flows freely and naturally from the lips of both lovers, as their hot blood flows through their veins.

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